Living with loss

This has not been an easy time lately for Fort St. James.

This has not been an easy time lately for Fort St. James. There have been a number of deaths of members of the community, allegations of murder against a community-member and a search and a search and rescue incident which turned out to be a false alarm.

Not one of these things is easy for a community to deal with, and all together they could be very difficult.

Those impacted by tragedy can become withdrawn and become overwhelmed by feelings of depression, anger and guilt.

People who know those struggling with these emotions can also feel awkward about how to approach them, afraid to say the wrong thing.

But it has amazed me once again how people in the Fort feel so comfortable speaking about the losses taking place, the recent deaths of community members seems to have touched everyone.

As I was reading about grief and loss, I saw how counsellors urge people to offer support and try not to pretend the loss didn’t occur but to acknowledge it and to simply be there and offer support for the person.

The support here in the community is evident every day, and I have already seen the acknowledgement by the community of the great losses by a minute of silence at the All Candidates Forum last week, when all the names of those who died recently were read out.

That moment of silence once again spoke volumes about the care in the community for people, and how in such a small community, everyone touches many lives, and we are all very reliant upon one another.

It is heartwarming to think of how connected this community is, and even as people are struggling with great loss, they can at least feel some comfort in knowing they are not alone.


Just Posted

College of New Caledonia offers new automotive glass technician program

The program is offered mainly online, allowing more students to take part from across the north

Decision on Burns Lake’s workforce camp “pending very soon”: Coastal GasLink

Meetings to discuss new camp location postponed due to wildfire situation

B.C. parents leery of HPV cervical cancer vaccine

Provincial registration uptake among lowest in Canada

Municipal spending outpaces population growth 4-fold in B.C.: report

Canadian Federation of Independent Business has released its annual operational spending report

Northern Health set to take pulse of region’s heart health in new consultations

Fort St. James’ consultation will take place Oct. 11

Watch out for Pavement Patty: Drivers warned outside B.C. elementary school

New survey reveals unsafe school zones during 2018 back-to-school week

Horvat leads Canucks to 4-3 shootout victory over Kings

Vancouver dumps L.A. in NHL pre-season contest

Update: Search called off for missing plane between Edmonton and Chilliwack

Search efforts were concentrated along the Highway 5 corridor between Valemount and Kamloops

Why Whistler for ski jumping in 2026? Calgary proposal gets pushback

Calgary 2026 proposes re-using the 2010 ski jumping venue Whistler for that sport and nordic

Despite progress, threat of 232 tariffs dominates NAFTA negotiations

Any deal is seen to require congressional approval before Dec. 1 to survive new Mexican government

VIDEO: Hundreds line highway as family brings home body of B.C. teen

Northern B.C. showed their support by lining Hwy 16 as Jessica Patrick’s body returned to Smithers.

B.C. MP Todd Doherty receives award for saving man who collapsed on a plane

Conservative MP was flying from Vancouver to Prince George, B.C., in June last year

Alleged border jumper from Oregon facing 2 charges after police chase in B.C.

Colin Patrick Wilson charged with dangerous operation of motor vehicle, flight from a peace officer

More than 35 B.C. mayors elected without contest

No other candidates for mayor in the upcoming local election in 22 per cent of B.C. cities

Most Read